How to Start a Facebook Secret Conversation (+Keep Your Messages Safe)

February 4, 2019

If you’ve ever sent a message you didn’t want to fall into the wrong hands, you know how stressful hitting send can feel.

Whether you’re sending a personal message regarding matters of health, or you’re throwing a surprise party for a friend, making sure that your message is seen by only the person you’re sending it to can be crucial. Some social media apps have features for a more secure messaging option, like the chat feature on Snapchat.

For users who don’t feel comfortable carrying on conversations on Snapchat, there’s the Facebook Secret Conversation feature within Facebook Messenger. It’s easy to do and you have full control over when the messages disappear.

Have a specific question about Facebook Secret Conversations? Head to a certain part of this article.

Facebook Secret Conversation

If you want to make sure that only the two people involved in a chat can read texts, then the new Secret Conversation feature in the Facebook Messenger app is the way to go.

Not only will your conversation remain a secret from prying eyes, but even the government and Facebook itself won’t be able to access conversations that take place in secret mode. Facebook Secret Conversations are easy to set up and easy to use, so if you’d like to learn more about this feature, keep reading!

Turn on Facebook Secret Conversations

Before you can have a secret conversation using Facebook Messenger, make sure this feature is turned on. It’s easy to do, and the steps are below.

Select Profile Picture

From the home screen of Facebook Messenger, select your profile picture in the top left corner.

Facebook Messenger Home Screen

Scroll to Secret Conversations

From there, scroll to the settings for Secret Conversations.

Select Secret Conversations

Switch On

If it isn’t already, switch the Secret Conversations feature on. When it is, conversations that take place in secret mode will be end-to-end encrypted on all of your devices at the same time.

Turn Secret Conversations On

Start a Facebook Secret Conversation

Once the feature is turned on you can easily start a Facebook Secret Conversation.

Select the New Message Icon

Back on the Facebook Messenger home screen, tap on the square and pencil icon in the upper right corner.

Start New Facebook Message

Select Secret

From the next screen, select Secret in the upper right corner.

Choose Secret

Type their name in the Search Bar

Next, use the Search Bar to type in the name of the user you’d like to start a Facebook Secret Conversation with.

Facebook Messenger Search Bar

Set the timer

Ones of the ways Facebook Secret Conversations differs from Snapchat is that you’re able to set a timer for when you’d like messages to expire. To do so, tap the clock icon where you would type your message.

Secret Conversation Timer

Choose how long you’d like your messages to appear within the Secret Conversation. When their time is up, these messages will no longer be shown within the conversation.

Set Conversation Timer

If you’re worried about how notifications from a Facebook Secret Conversation will appear on your lock screen, Facebook Messenger will alert you that you have a message but will not specify who it’s from. Or, find out how to turn off Facebook notifications so this won't pop up in the first place. 

Secret Conversation Notification

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Shhh… it’s a secret

No matter what kind of Facebook Secret Conversation you’re having, you can be sure that the messages being sent and received are completely classified.

If you weren’t aware that this Facebook feature existed, check it out and tell someone your secret. If you're lucky, whatever you say will stay between the two of you.

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